The idea is to allow the dog to sleep in bed, but under your feet. Cat/dog hair comes with having cats/dogs. Even in other peoples houses dog owners want to let their mutts do what they want. However, I still prefer and recommend doing those things by yourself. I didnt want him on furniture which he has done and not in our room. its her baby and thats how theyve always been. The other issue is my cat is out in the living room, any movement from her and he jumps off the bed and starts whining or barking. Also this puppy is a Pitbull and my partner knows Im scared of these types of dogs. Its just unreal. I grew from loving him to hating him! I realized that I only had patience pre pregnancy because I wanted to be a mother. Well the plot has thickened. OMG that is horrible! Even if my back was hurting and I had to use my inhaler all the time. Youre not crazy. I love my husband, in every other aspect we have a great relationship, but this makes me so sad and when hes not around, I openly cry for my loss of not having a pet. I am to the end of my rope and sanity with the dog. I watch the dogs all day when my husband is at work. Sometimes when I think my 10 month old daughter is bored and suggest putting her in her walker, he says not yet , give him some time to clean up the dogs pee pee paper grr. Emotional attachments to dogs (or cats or horses or jobs or cars or sports or many other things for that matter) can and do cause us to loose our focus. What I dont get is why would anyone want dogs to sleep in their bed if they have a partner or are married? I did agree to having the dog with us because I dont like to see any animal suffer as I am too a dog lover. Not enough to leave my future wife. We had moved in together knowing he couldnt have his dog, he said he was okay with that. I dont know what to do! She is causing me more stress and pain than anything, but he refuses to give her up. It is not even possible to give them as much attention as they want! And one of the dogs, also keeps drinking from the toilet and chews up garbage from the trash can in the bathroom, even underwear! She didnt beg or whine constantly. I offered to pay for a local dog whisperer to come into the situation as many times as needed to address a compromise but she wouldnt think of it. I feel they are the ugliest breed as well as they drool, nasty! A pet is still an animal!!! Share responsibilities: You need to take some weight off from your husband/boyfriend if you really love the dog. Because he hates dog hair even though whenever My dog did come to my boyfriends with me he would have to stay outside. Everyone on here keeps saying leave him or her the dog is your life and Im sorry I feel that the pet owners have failed their pets by allowing this behavior. I just want to be free from this and not have to deal anymore. You have to be prepared though. My boyfriend stays the night with me sometimes and works overnight and sometimes when he comes home, my dog has jumped on the bed while Im passed out and he gets really annoyed. It can be considered the middle but if your partner is like me, the dog can pose serious health problems. Just food for thought. (Another reason they want to get rid of the dog they rescued from shelter.). I really feel your pain. Well I feel the same as a lot of comments here reflect. They hate your dog. Omg, Im so happy I found this forum. I tell him it hurts my feelings when he says things like that about my dog, wishing her dead all the time, but he says what about MY feelings, how I hate the dog, that I do not care that he hates my dog and he feels he has to live with this animal he hates. My bf doesnt even like the dog! Besides she was using those back legs to get into it and was dragging herself out of it. It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. As time goes on I thought I may get used to it as I force myself to accept things. So when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. The dog lovers will think that I am insane to hate dogs but yes, hate is the best word to use. But that does not happen. I like dogs and understand why other do as well. Anyway good luck. The horrible creature has no respect for my other animals, and it vacuums up anything it sees, including my cats toys because it is just too stupid and rangy to slow down and notice anything outside of its own drive for food. Id never ask my wife to get rid of them and the problem isnt the dogs: its the way she treats the dogs and the problems that creates. This was all up front. Husband has been violent 2x in the 13 years and now again recently. My husband just seems to want me to do the same for him but without giving me anything in return, even a little bit of honesty about how he feels about things that matter to me. I want to have a fresh start together and build a happy marriage and we want to start a family. Im a mess right now. "They are hesitant to commit to future events or activities, so they make up excuses in order to . Here its totally different.here i have rules,my dog is not allowed in etc etcim lost.what am i supposed to do? My story is very similar to all of yours except I was the dog owner going into it. I love that little cutie. However most of the pet sites insult anyone considering turning their indoor cat into an outdoor cat. People so often posit their relationships with their pets on nothing beyond feel good feelings they get from the pet being fully dependent upon them, when they would never accept that type of arrangement with another human being. I had a goldendoodle attack me! Just to note for you dog lovers out there (not meant in a derogatory way) the dog is just happy, didnt cry, moan or anything at all in the following nights which surprised her. Dog stays off the furniture, gets her own doggie bed for the bedroom, and he sweeps everyday. I am to the end of my rope. :(. We recently had some severe weather out by our home, while I was out of town, and my SO told me in detail how she took her dog to the basement and secured it in its kennel and sat on top of it, then briefly mentions having our child in the car seat next to her. My husband despises the dog, to the point that he came home from work one day to find me holding him in my lap and petting him because he was sick, and he went bizerk. Husband now is only concerned with dogs appearance rather than his wife. When my oldest was 8, I got her a kitten. It is super disgusting how bad behavior is rewarded with these Chihuahuas. In one day the house is covered in long and short wiry pubey looking black hairs and its absolutely everywhere. It has chewed a few things it shouldnt and I dont always feel enthusiatic about walks but its generally okay (only 8 months). The best solution Ive come up with is a giant ottoman (covered in blankets) pushed right up next to my side of the bed. She became whiny , would cry every time we gave baby attention or even if hubby would change babys diapershe started barking louder whenever we come home from the store she stil allowed to sleep in our bedroom and it annoys me. My partner has never really been a fan of dogs (animals in general) but agreed to getting one to make me and the kids happy. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. Renee I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but getting a dog without consulting your husband was a bad idea. These poor butt-hurt people making butt-hurt comments, dont get it, but I do.. Im not a dog person, and I have to live with one now, and I totally get you. i wanted to embark on a new relationship, and instead of prevented from doing so, because of the current interference from the cat. I hate dogs. At this point, a year and a half later, Im tired of hearing the same complaints day after day. I always had a vision of how my life was going to turn out, what my home was going to be like, how it was going to look, smell, etc. Dogs only want to please their master and its up to you to spend the money or Time to learn how. As people have disappeared into their screens there is an expectation by some that they neednt live in the real world; that dogs or games or something they can control which does not include another living/breathing human is the central focus in their life. In my opinion you only making it worse and making him think he is the alpha male as he gets his way. hes paying more attention to his phone and getting angry. It was not her fault but made me mad nonetheless. We both work hard and long hours, so a dog has never been an option, I love cats, but would settle for a rabbit or Guinea pig, but even this is met with an absolute no. I hate them. Let the dog sleep on the floor! Yes animals can feel! Its not the dog, its the owner. But unfortunately I didnt know that and Im now invested in this relationship. Even when I came home from grocery shopping, he would already try to steal items out of my grocer bags!! I went away few weeks ago and came home to my husband telling me, admitting to me that he allowed the cat on the bed. (Hunting in their breeding and we cannot predict what a jr will do at all times in a human created abnormal (for them) environment. 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